The scary fear on every mom's mind,
"what if I lose the baby?"
Perhaps the fear of losing their baby during pregnancy (whether miscarriage or loss in the first or second trimester) this is one of the scariest defining reasons why many mamas hold off on booking their Birth Photographer during their first trimester. Accoring to BocaFertility.com, “Infertility in women can result from various factors, including irregular ovulation, blocked fallopian tubes, endometriosis, uterine abnormalities, and age-related decline in egg quality.”
Miscarriage or loss during pregnancy is a very real concern for not only couples struggling with infertility, but even first time pregnancies, and even mamas who have never had a loss before. Marchofdimes.com informs us that “For women who know they're pregnant, about 10 to 20 in 100 pregnancies (10 to 20 percent) end in miscarriage. Most miscarriages - 8 out of 10 (80 percent) - happen in the first trimester before the 12th week of pregnancy.”
While the best time to Book your Birth Photographer is definitely today, for reasons mentioned below,
a fear of loss can be paralyzing.
I met Dr. Moshe Winograd a few years ago, he works with families who have suffered loss not only from miscarriage but also from stillbirth and he shares his experiences here, “I have learned from so many women (and their partners) about how they have never quite forgotten their lost babies, even decades later. The pain and constant reminders diminish and recede into the background but they are still there, after all they were still born. Coming to counseling will provide you with a space to make sense of what happened, how to integrate what was in a coherent way that allows you to move forward and take what is important to you with you, and function on a day-to-day basis.”
When it comes to deciding when to book your Birth Photographer, especially if you are fearful of loss or have a history of miscarriage or loss,
A personal decision no one but you can answer is if you do suffer a loss, what next?
Will you try again or is this the end of your journey?
Depending on your answer…
you may find some relief in knowing that if you do suffer a loss, your investment in Birth Photography with me is not gone, it is held until your future birth story.
Many moms have booked me prior to getting pregnant, they know their investment with me is safe. Some moms who have suffered a loss after already booked with me know their investment is waiting for their next birth story, whether in a couple of months or later that year.
One of the most instrumental specialists my Birth Photography and Doula clients have worked with here in Boca Raton surrounding their pregnancies, their losses, as well as emotional and/or physical trauma from the birthing experience, has been Dr. KC Charette
KC Charette is a licensed Clinical Psychologist in Florida. While her physical office is located in Boca Raton, Dr. Charette also serves patients throughout all of Florida via tele-health. She provides individual, couples, family and group therapy. Dr. Charette has over a decade of experience in treating a range of psychological concerns. She uses evidenced-based interventions and holistic/wellness approaches in therapy. Aided by her warmth and authenticity, Dr. Charette creates a professional & safe environment where clients feel supported and empowered to share their experiences.
Specializations
Adjusting to pregnancy, postpartum & parenthood
Coping with infertility and perinatal depression/anxiety/OCD
Grief from loss
Booking your Birth Photographer today gives you several benefits:
- I only book a maximum of 2 Birth Photography clients per month. I REALLY enjoy getting to know my birth clients and their families, this is actually one of my favorite things about my work, I am an artist and my work is tied to my emotions, and the more I know the family, the better my work becomes, and I could not do that if I worked with too many clients each month. But when I choose to limit my monthly Birth clients to only 2, I book up very quickly and am often booked 4 to 6 months in advance, therefore I also have to plan my own family's life and vacations 4 - 6 months in advance, and it is why I am off-call in May/June 2024.
- Booking your Birth Photographer today will give you the longest amount of time to pay for your investment. I rarely take payment in full, because my preference is to split all my clients payments into at least two. This gives me the opportunity to also have a "scheduled date" when I will be checking in with my client to see how her pregnancy is going. It's also a guide for my client for when my client's "on-call" time begins for them. Many of my clients enjoy weekly installments for their birth packages, because expensive strollers, cribs and everything under the sun from a baby shower, to room decorations, to post partum meals can add up. Instead of paying bulk payments, my clients enjoy weekly installments that break up their investment in their birth story over the course of their entire pregnancy. The earlier you reserve your birth story, the more installments you can breakdown over time. Its a bit more manageable to have a lump sum broken down into 12 installments vs 2!
