MODEST PHOTOS
Today I want to talk about modesty in birth, modesty in the photos you share online from your birth, and what modesty means to families - moms, dads, birth workers, doctors, midwives, nurses, etc.
I know I know I KNOW — so many of y’all follow me because I AM MODEST. Heck, I don’t even wear low cut tops myself (unless it’s to go out dancing lol) because I am QUITE modest in many areas of my life. But a huge huge personal goal I have for myself in 2021 and frankly every year moving forward with my birth work is to work towards shattering this misconception that we have that sharing birth photos is indecent exposure that makes us all dishonorable or something if we show too much skin - or God forbid our privates.
WHY YOU OVERSHARING YOUR WHOLE LIFE, YOUR PRIVATE MOMENTS??? they say AT US, condescending. Gas lighting us into thinking WE ARE DOING SOMETHING WRONG.
Well where has keeping things private gotten us MOMS? I’ll say it again, where has NOT TALKING ABOUT birth and NOT SHOWING PHOTOS of how birth truly looks and staying MODEST AF gotten us MOMS? Where has it truly gotten us?
BIRTH TRAUMA?
Heavy on the interventions births?
PTSD?
Post partum anxiety, pp depression?
Feeling like NOBODY understands what we went through in childbirth, how freaking tough it was, what we overcame, being entirely misunderstood by the most intimate people in our lives?
We've avoided teaching our children the truth about how POWERFUL CHILD BIRTH AND WOMEN ARE and instead we tell them stories about storks, to what, preserve their innocence? Or perhaps to deprive them the truth that birthing women are legends.
Let's ask ourselves once more and LOUDLY, why are we hiding RAW FEMININE DIVINE behind closed doors with shame?
Thank you graciously to this mama for permitting me to share the beauty and raw power of childbirth with you!
And thank you to my friend, Midwife Tyler @thalvaksz_midwife of @whpmidwives who does not fear powerful birthing mothers, she's prepared for any birth I've had the honor of attending alongside of her, and she's not afraid to hold the mother, to kneel in front of the mother, and even to step back when dad's got this.
WOOOO What a way to start this week off!
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