Guest Blogger: Nurse and author of Survival Secrets For The New Graduate Nurse

Preventing Preeclampsia Part I: Connecting the K2 Dots

We don’t know the exact cause of preeclampsia or eclampsia, and current treatments are only moderately effective. Many women who develop it will deliver preterm. Since is a severe progression of preeclampsia which involves seizures, we will only be using the term “preeclampsia.” Converging evidence suggests that supplementation with certain vitamins, micronutrients, minerals, antioxidants, and amino acids could prevent or possibly treat preeclampsia and eclampsia. We will be discussing the evidence that supports each, and make a case for the theory that nutritional deficiencies are the cause, therefore nutritional therapy is the treatment. This post is about Vitamin K2, and future posts will cover the other nutritional therapies.

Who is Elena?Welcome! I am a nurse and the author of Survival Secrets For The New Graduate Nurse.

Who is Elena?

Elena is a nurse and the author of Survival Secrets For The New Graduate Nurse. 

You can follow the series by subscribing on her page here: elenasdailydose.com


Vitamin K2

Vitamin K2 (also known as MK-7 and menaquinone) is a little understood and little known vitamin and cofactor. It plays a major role the proper absorption of calcium, the prevention of atherosclerosis, suppressing inflammation caused by oxidative stress, reducing the risk of type 2 diabetes, increasing insulin sensitivity, and many other processes which we are still uncovering. Right now there isn’t even a test that is used as the “gold standard” method for assessing total Vitamin K status. What we do know, is that most people are not getting enough of it from the foods here in America. 
Let us take a look at some of the risk factors and lab values associated with preeclampsia and eclampsia (according to WebMD, 2018) and connect them to K2 deficiency.

Risk Factor #1: Preexisting Protein C or Protein S deficiency

Protein C and Protein S are both Vitamin K dependent proteins. This means that the body requires Vitamin K to be able to activate Protein C and Protein S. Protein C is made primarily in the liver, but 50% of protein S is made in the endothelial cells of the vascular walls (Frannsen et al., 2017). Vitamin K1 activates coagulation factors in the liver, but vitamin K2 activates the vitamin K dependent proteins that exist extrahepatically (outside the liver) (Frannsen et al., 2017). If a vitamin K deficiency exists, than Protein C or Protein S deficiency will also exist. If protein C or protein S deficiency is a risk factor for eclampsia, it is certainly possible then that the root cause is actually vitamin K2 deficiency. 

I was diagnosed with “mild” protien S deficiency after having three miscarriages.  I did not know then what I know now.  I had to take aspirin to be able to maintain the pregnancy.  If I had known better, I would have replenished my K2 before trying again.  I was never tested for K2 deficiency and did not even know it could be a possible cause at the time.  I will be writing about recurrent miscarriage in the near future and will certainly discuss this further.

Why does this matter in preeclampsia?

It is important to realize that calcium plays a direct role in vasodilation (the dilation of blood vessels, which decreases blood pressure), though we won’t get into the specific mechanisms here.


You can read more here on Elena’s page elenasdailydose.com


Boca Regional Mom’s Dream First Birth - How a Doula Dream Team Made Hypnobirth a Reality

On October 19th at 11:23pm, a sweet angel baby boy was born

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This first time mom. Her devoted husband. Grandma. Their birth team. Two doulas. The nurses. Everyone supported this amazing warrior mama so much through her very first baby’s hypnobirth which started intensely in labor and delivery security check in, progressed through to her labor room shower and finally resulted in them meeting their sweet boy.

This mama spent her pregnancy energy focusing on hypnobirthing, concentrating, focusing, calming, relaxing, embracing every wave of labor that was to come.

Her team knew how important an unmedicated as natural as possible birth was to her and her husband and they did everything to support and encourage her through every contraction closer to meeting her son.

She arrived in labor and delivery with her husband and her doula from Orchid’s Nest. She breathed and relaxed and let her muscles melt as each new wave of labor crashed over her body. She had prepared to do j-breathing during this earlier part of active labor, a breathing technique that is used during labor to help release (soften) your pelvic floor which gives your baby the space to move down the birth canal, effectively shortening labor.

The simple steps to J-breathing is

  • inhaling through your nose

  • hold your breath for a moment if you want to work with a natural surge (contraction)

  • exhale through your mouth while focusing on your baby moving down and up into your arms

  • and when you are ready to repeat, repeat at a slow pace

  • try to visualize the breath traveling down your body and out your bottom

  • remember: it is absolutely okay and expected for j-breathing to be very noisy

I loved witnessing her focus despite the bright lights of the hospital, the noises, people asking her questions. It was evident she had practiced this amazing focus her entire pregnancy.

She held onto her husband’s back as they traveled from the lobby onto the elevator and upstairs to their labor and delivery room, while her doula supported her back for those intense contractions.

It’s vital that you mentally prepare yourself for when you arrive at your labor and delivery room, you will need to spend about 20-30 minutes back ridden in the hospital bed while the nurses get a tracing on your baby’s heart rate and your contractions before you are able to move freely during labor. While I am not 100% sure if this rule can ever be deviated from depending on your obgyn or midwife, I have seen every client (except those already crowning when they get into their L&D room) have to go through this process. It is vital when your goal is hypnobirthing and unmedicated birth, to not let this medical intervention break your focus through your visualization of your baby descending so you can continue laboring your baby down once you move through this stage.

As soon as my client was able to get out of her hospital bed, her other doula from Orchid Nest, Samara, arrived and quickly stepped in to give my client even more support. The room’s vibes and energy shifted from ‘hospital admittance’ to sacred birthing space.

My favorite photo from my client’s labor is where she is leaning over her hospital bed, with her husband and her mother at her side, and both of her doulas at either side of her, doing the double hip squeeze and the photo is from above. I think this photo is the epitome of supporting the mother and the baby through their journey earthside.

To do a double hip squeeze to relieve the intensity of pressure during labor on the back, having the laboring mom position herself comfortably either sitting, standing, leaning over a bed or ball like my client or on all fours. Place your hands on her hip bones in a W shape and with your thumbs pointing toward her spine. Ise the heels of your hands to squeeze and rotate toward the center and up slightly toward the shoulders. Hold the pressure for the duration of the contraction, and slowly release.

They slowly moved over to the shower where my client used the natural resource of the warm water from the shower to work through what ended up being final stages of labor.

At one point during a surge, it became clear we could see the very top of baby’s head. But remember, with many (and often most) first time moms, there is still a pushing stage. Not all (and not most) first time baby’s quickly slide out so this isn’t always the case of a precipitous delivery, though its important to prepare as if it were so baby is caught (delivered) in a safe manner.

She emerged from the hot shower and baby boy was crowning

She made her way to the delivery bed

As soon as she was on the hospital bed, almost simultaneously in this moment my birth photography client’s OBGYN, Dr. Arcelin, from Women’s Health Partners in Boca walked into the delivery room…

…and with a few pushes, sweet boy was born onto mama’s chest.

You were such an inspiring warrior mama. You are such a strong woman. Your doulas and I were so incredibly proud of you! And your husband was your steadfast rock. If he was nervous at all, we were never able to tell. Your constant and relentless encouragement and being at her side was awe inspiring.

And her team... Her OB Dr. Arcelin of Women’s Health Partners, her amazing doulas Elle and Samara from Orchids Nest. She had the dream team. But then again, everyone at Boca Raton Regional Hospital comprises to make a dream team!




Guest Blogger: Getting real about my postpartum experience


Birth Story Featured Guest: My birth client and owner of Shelby Truly Photography


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Austin only left my side once during labor, because he had to move the car, and even then, he moved as fast as he could, because he knew I needed him.

 
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True love is letting your wife rest her head on yours, even though you are getting soaked, because you know that is the only thing that will bring her comfort.

 
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The best healthcare provider I have ever met. I thank God for my midwife Kathy. She truly cares about her patients, and is passionate about her job.

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Meeting Thea for the first time. Birth photos all by the talented Paulina Splechta

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On Monday, October 17th, 2016  at 8:16am, after 27 hours of drug free labor, my daughter was born via Cesearan. Hearing her cry for the first time, was pure relief. The battle had been won. All 9lb 1oz of her was here. They placed her on my chest in the OR, and her little hand grabbed my face. The first thing I noticed was that she had the same nose as me. I was too tired to express my emotions, and if I am being honest it wasn’t the best moment of my life. I didn’t feel the magical love that everyone talked about.  I was way too tired, and traumatized to really feel much at all.  I wanted to instantly bond with her, and feel that great love, but it wasn’t there.

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The view from my hospital room. Photo by Paulina Splechta.

 

While we were at the hospital I spiked a fever, so they put me on a ton of antibiotics to prevent any infection that might have been forming. We stayed at the hospital for four days. If you know me, you know I am not a fan of hospitals. The constant people in, and out, the attention, and overall atmosphere doesn’t mesh well with my personality. I thank God that our hospital room had a view of palm trees, and the ocean, without that it would have been much harder for me. 


Leaving the hospital. I really hope we buckled her in better than this before we left, but we were so out of it, I’m not sure that we did. Oops.

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Thursday late afternoon we were finally released from the hospital. Bringing a baby home for the first time is scary, but my husband and I were both anxious to leave. We were both exhausted, and ready to be in the comfort of our own home.  I didn’t think of how hard life would be once we got there. Somehow, bringing Thea home confused her days and nights. Instead of just eating and going back to sleep like she had at the hospital, she was awake in the middle of the night. I remember sitting in our bedroom at 3am with an awake newborn, who didn’t want to go back to sleep, or be put down. It was not fun. Add to this the fact that when I laid down to try and sleep I was having nightmares about being in labor. The lack of sleep felt like torture. We were so overwhelmed.

Time stamped 2:54am (Ironically sleeping)

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Our first day home with Thea.

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The next morning I called my mom in desperation. We needed help. We couldn’t do this alone, but I felt so guilty asking for help. I was Thea’s mom, I should be able to handle this right?? I felt like a burden, and a failure asking for help. I know now that I shouldn’t have felt this way. My mom got to spend time with her brand new grand baby. I’m sure she was ecstatic, but I didn’t see that in the moment.

 
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Grammy to the rescue.


I spent the majority of my time for the first few months of Thea’s life in this spot on the couch. It was easier for me to get up and down from the couch than the bed, and Thea slept better in the swing. ( Photo by Austin)

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The months to come were some of the hardest of my life. With the lack of sleep, and my body not healing properly, depression set in (not surprising for me). It all felt too hard, like so hard I couldn’t do it. I remember asking God why he made me Thea’s mother because obviously I wasn’t cut out for it. Everyone around me expected me to be over the moon, and so in love with my new baby. This expectation just added to the guilt. I was struggling to bond, and feel the love that everyone talked about.

I don’t want to leave you with the impression I never enjoyed her, because I did, I just didn’t enjoy her like I should have.

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I mean look at this sweetness. She was/is so precious.

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At six weeks old, Thea started sleeping a 4-5 hour chunk in the beginning of the night. It felt amazing, and it gave me a glimmer of hope. I thought maybe I could do this after all. Sadly it only lasted a few weeks, with her teething early, sleep went out the window once again. Sleep continued to get worse, she eventually got down to waking up every single hour ( and no I am not exaggerating). This was my breaking point. I couldn’t do it anymore. I finally broke down sobbing, and my aunt took her for the night. It’s hard for anyone else to watch a breastfed baby who won’t take a bottle, but they made it through, and  I slept for five hours straight. This was the longest stretch of unbroken sleep I had slept in the three and a half months of Thea’s life.  It was also the longest stretch of sleep my body would allow. My body didn’t know how to sleep through the night anymore. 

I posted this photo to Instagram, talking about sleep issues. Looking back now, I think it should have been titled “This is what Postpartum depression looks like.” But depression is tricky, it doesn’t always look like this. There are smiles, and happy moments still, but a dark cloud lingers overhead.

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Around four months old we let her cry to go to sleep, it was that, or me locked up in a mental ward.  It was one of those things I never wanted to do but ended up doing to save my sanity. (For those of you who think I was a terrible person for letting my baby cry herself to sleep. I don’t really care what you think, nor do I want to hear your opinion.) It helped. She didn’t magically sleep through the night, but enough to keep me from losing it, we went from waking hourly to 3ish times a night.

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When Thea was five months old, I sought help for my mental health, and something was sparked in me. God spoke into my life, and I finally had hope of getting better. Hope is powerful. I realized that I wasn’t stuck like this forever. That God was/and still is bigger than my struggles. My bond with Thea grew, and I developed the great love that everyone talked about so much. I started to enjoy spending my days with Thea, and being her mom. 

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I am so grateful for this love, and the joy that she brings into the lives of those around her. I love watching her grow, and learn. I soak up her smiles, and laughter.  I love listening to her ‘talk.’ She is my little people watcher, and observer. She is strong willed, and will let you know exactly what she wants, or doesn’t want. She loves figuring out how things work, and imitating mommy, and daddy. She is still a boobie baby, and will let me know she wants to nurse, by repeatedly pecking her face into my chest like a little bird. She loves animals, and insists on making friends with them where ever we go. And I am thankful to say that she nows sleeps through the night completely!

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To the mamas struggling, hang in there, I promise it gets better. Find your village ( I am still in the process of growing mine), and accept help. I promise there are people in your life that want to help, let them. I had help, but should have accepted more. I felt guilty accepting more help, because she was my baby, and I should have been able to do it all by myself right?? 

To everyone with a new mom (or dad) in your life, ask how they are doing, care about them too, not just the baby. Don’t assume she is on a magical new baby high, too many women struggle with Postpartum Depression to assume this.  Even if they aren’t facing PPD, parenthood is hard, not sleeping is hard, trying to do it all on your own is hard. And don’t forget dad, this whole thing is hard for him too, and takes a lot of adjusting, and sacrifice. 

To all of you who helped us in this past year, thank you! When they say it takes a village to raise a child, they mean it. I have learned the importance of community. We weren’t created to do this life alone, even if you are good at being alone like I am. 

I write all of this, not for sympathy or your pity, but so the mom who is in the midst of the struggle knows she isn’t alone.  If you are struggling, and need an ear to listen, or want to share your story, feel free to email me shelbytruly@gmail.com. I will do my best to reply to everyone in a timely manner. 






Two Empowering Birth Stories of Women of Color

September Mama Birth Story

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Powerful Woman Empowering Women

I love how mama looks at her first born (daughter) in such awe and admiration as if to say with her eyes — we did it, together!

When I first walked into her labor room in the middle of the night at labor and delivery in Boca Raton, the first thought I had upon seeing her was ‘wow this mama is powerful!’

She was laboring on all fours, at the very end stages of her labor, as her body was naturally progressing to 10cm on its own, without any medications, and I was in absolutely awe of her natural born power.
South Florida is a focal point in the U.S. with the highest c-section rates. And in today’s day, it can be terrifying to be an African American woman giving birth, because the mortality rates and mistreatment of women of color during pregnancy and birth are the highest out of any race of women in the world.

That is why this mama knew she wanted the most natural and holistic and safe birth experience so she made well researched choices when choosing her birth team. She went with a hospital midwife team (CNMs Courtney McMillian and Polina Goldenberg) that have the 3rd lowest c-section rate in south Florida and a reputation for being extremely gentle and natural minded.  (Boca Midwifery)
I am so wowed by this amazing first time mom! And so humbled that she would trust me 110% with capturing this moment for her!

Best of all, mama recognizes that I am a birth photographer on a mission and completely stands behind me with sharing her birth photos with you all and this powerful message. 

 

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Best Position to Give Birth in

The best position for the baby to be in to pass through the pelvis is with the head down and the body facing towards the mother's back. This position is called occiput anterior (source: medlineplus.gov)


That is the position this sweet baby girl is being born in, about to be caught by her midwife & her mom.


When I was about to become a mom 6 years ago, I had never seen a beautiful, not intimidating photograph like this one. This doesn't show fear, grossness, chaos, danger. Instead, this image shows grace, peace, comfort, safety. We’ve been taught that birth is a hugely medical process and the scariest moment of a woman's life. But this moment proves that birth can be peaceful, calm, supported and completely safe, where ever you choose to birth if you make smart, educated choices.
The midwife catching this baby is Licensed Midwife, Gelena Hinkley of Peaceful Pregnancy Pathways and Natural Birthworks Birth Center in Margate, FL. She is also our Midwife Highlight of the week. 
I have received permission from my birth photography client, a woman of color, to speak out about the safety, tidiness and comfort of her birth. Having your baby the way she did, unmedicated and at home, does not have to be a lower class irresponsible, cheap and messy route to choose as sometimes is the common myth discussed among women of color. Having your baby unmedicated and at home can be empowering, clean, safe, and a wonderful experience for you and your entire family - as this mom felt.
Did you know that the statistics of mortality/complications during labor, birth and post partum are the worst numbers for black women in America? 
Key to changing these statistics begins with knowledge during pregnancy. Interview multiple providers with low c/section rates, low mortality rates and high positive feedback, hire experienced doula & make smart choices about the location you choose to birth in.
I am grateful to my birth client for being brave in giving me permission to share photos from her birth. Women of color have suffered far too long, it is time to bring peaceful, supported, empowered birth to all women.

Early Pregnancy Symptoms Before The Pregnancy Test & During Pregnancy

I remember so vividly the feeling after you hope you conceived and between the time you were able to test positive on a home pregnancy test. Those days were the longest. Except maybe the last month of pregnancy. The start and the end of every conception to birth journey is so unique in that you need to let go, and let time just happen. But it really feels like you’re briefly sucked into a time vortex where the clocks stop moving and you’re just tapping your finger and waiting.

Remember, none of the below is medical advice. I am just a mama, and I happen to love pregnancy and birth and love to write about it. If you are genuinely concerned about your pregnancy, issues conceiving, or with upcoming labor/birth, make sure you ask your medical provider your questions.

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TRYING FOR A GIRL

With both pregnancies (when we were trying to get pregnant) I read that if you tried at the very beginning of your ovulation cycle, or even 2-3 days before your ovulation cycle began, you’d have increasingly higher odds of getting pregnant with a girl because something about male DNA carrying sperm dying out quicker, so by the time you were at the peak of your ovulation cycle, only female DNA carrying sperm remained. I can only prove this twice, because I have only two kids, but both of them are girls, so maybe it worked? :)




CANDLESTICK METHOD

Another method for getting pregnant that I used was called the candlestick method. It’s when you kick your feet up in the air, and place the palms of your hands against your back. Apparently this is a known fertility exercise during ovulation and conception. I again don’t know if its effective, but its what I tried with both babies. It’s known well as a yoga move too.

FEVER

Both times that I got pregnant with my two daughters, the very first early pregnancy symptom that I experienced with each pregnancy before I could even test positive with a home pregnancy test was a fever! Yes a fever! With both pregnancies! It lasted a very short amount of time, I can’t remember exactly anymore because my very first pregnancy was 7 years ago, and my second pregnancy was 4 years ago, but I believe the fever was less than 24 hours in duration and it was a low-grade fever both times, around 100.6. I can only guess the reasoning behind this was my body lowering its immune defenses as it prepared for implantation.

CRAMPING

Once we tried for each baby, I was so impatient to know if I had gotten pregnant successfully. Instantly I started googling what early symptoms of pregnancy could feel like before a home pregnancy test would actually give me real results.

With both of my times getting pregnant, one of the earliest symptoms of pregnancy that I was personally able to feel was menstrual type cramping. Later on I found out that this could be a sign of a fertilized egg traveling down the fallopian tubes to your uterus.

With both pregnancies very early on I experienced slight bleeding between weeks 6-8 which I thought could be implantation bleeding.




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FATIGUE

Right away with both pregnancies in the first trimester, I immediately felt tremendous fatigue. When I got pregnant with my first baby, I’d come home from work, and fall asleep right away for a late afternoon/early morning nap. Once I got pregnant with my second baby (and something nobody tells you that complicates things with pregnancy related fatigue!) I couldn’t nap anymore when I felt exhausted! Because it seemed that the moment I got pregnant with my second baby, my first child who had just turned 2 years old, completely stopped napping.




METALLIC TASTE

HELLO Pregnancy! The Metallic Taste is the one thing most complained about by myself during both pregnancies, family members of mine, friends of mine and even my birth photography clients. It just tastes like you have pennies in your mouth, and its super unpleasant. It can make food taste awful and unappealing causing you to eat less, causing you an empty belly and more nausea, and it can just be an overall frustrating feeling to not be able to wash it out of your mouth no matter what you do!




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MY FAVORITE TRIMESTER

My favorite trimester has always been the 2nd trimester. The second trimester goes from week 13 to 26 of pregnancy.

My belly always started to look more round, so I was visibly pregnant, my skin was tight around my belly, which made me feel more confident in myself, pregnancy caused fatigue went away, and although I was still nauseous during this time with my first pregnancy, the nausea definitely got better with my second pregnancy during this trimester and by the middle of the second trimester my pregnancy related nausea was completely gone.

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NAUSEA AND HYPEREMESIS

Nausea was something I unfortunately experienced A LOT of during both pregnancies.

During my very first pregnancy with my first daughter, my nausea started at about 6-7 weeks and lasted consistently every day until the 37th week when it finally dissipated. No matter what I tried to eat or drink, I couldn’t keep anything down. In the middle of the day, either just before lunch or immediately after lunch time, I could keep down anything chocolate, but that was literally it. So it was no surprise to me that my now almost 6 year old daughter is a huge chocolate addict!

It wasn’t until my first baby was about a year and a half old that I found out that I experienced during my first pregnancy a similar condition to Kate Middleton called Hyperemesis Gravidarum. It was actually in an article about her pregnancy which is how I found out.

Hyperemesis Gravidarum is a pregnancy complication that is characterized by severe nausea, vomiting, weight loss, and possibly dehydration. Signs and symptoms may also include vomiting many times a day and feeling faint. Hyperemesis gravidarum is considered more severe than morning sickness. (source).

I also later found out that many women who experience Hyperemesis Gravidarum (also called HG) during their pregnancy end up being hospitalized for dehydration and malnutrition since they cannot keep anything down to hydrate properly or nourish themselves.

The OBGYN I was with during my first pregnancy never mentioned this medical condition. He also never gave me any solutions to treating it. I realize now looking back, I was very underweight, although I gained a healthy 15lbs, I really should have gained more. I looked very thin until 37 weeks of my pregnancy. My OBGYN recommended oral 8mg zofran tablets but they only barely took the edge of for 30 minutes per day. So every day I had to decide which 30 minutes of the day was worst and take it then. It was misery. It was like being sea sick for 30 weeks of my pregnancy! Or a really bad hangover.

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So there you have it, those were the bulk of my early pregnancy symptoms and some of the most prominent during my pregnancies. There were definitely many other symptoms I experienced as time went on. More food cravings, headaches, round ligament pain, back pain, mood swings, etc, but the above were the ones that hung around for most of my pregnancies! I hope this blog post was helpful or insightful to you on what to possibly expect when you’re pregnant.


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ABOUT ME

I am a birth photographer in Boca Raton, FL. I started out 11 years ago originally photographing engagements, weddings, bar mitzvahs, birthday parties. But once I had my first child almost 6 years ago, I felt a calling to only working with new moms. I limited my work to maternity sessions, newborn photography, photographing families and breastfeeding photo shoots. I became very well known in south Florida for my advocacy of breastfeeding.

Shortly after my daughter turned 2 years old, I attended my first birth as a photographer. It was for one of my maternity / breastfeeding photography clients.

The moment I photographed her birth a little over 4 years ago now, I knew then that I wanted to be a full time on call birth photographer & birth videographer as my career.

I never looked back.

Today, I have photographed almost 100 births in the last 4 years, ranging from birth center births, to home births with midwives and doulas, inductions in the hospital, unmedicated births in the hospital, surrogate births, twin births both vaginal and c-section, schedule cesarean births, emergency cesareans, and I love what I do. I have birth great professional relationships with the midwives, OBGYNs and labor doulas here in south Florida, many of my colleagues are baby nurses, lactation consultants, pediatric sleep specialists, physical therapists and chiropractors. I would love to work with you for your birth story, and typically I book about 5 to 7 months in advance, however, it is not unheard of for me to sometimes take a client who is in the last two months of their pregnancy, so don’t hesitate to reach out!







End of Year 2018 Exclusive Birth Raffle

We are officially in the last quarter of 2018! Wow!

Working in the birth world, I get pretty use to seeing the year in quarters since moms are pregnant for three quarters of a year. I am excited to say I am officially taking my last clients of 2018. I am very eager to meet 2019 with four repeat birth clients birthing between January — April.

How special.

I have been waiting over the last few years for my mamas to expand their families and I am thrilled that the first quarter of the new year will be celebrated all with repeat birth clients who’s previous babies births I photographed over two years ago :)

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To celebrate the very last birth clients for 2018 I am hosting an exclusive raffle for expecting families birthing before the end of the year.

The winner of the raffle will receive

  • an Exclusive Maternity Session in a stunning and enchanting park in Coral Springs, FL

as well as

  • 30% off of the story of their choice (birth photography, birth film or siblings meeting story)

To enter the raffle, email me using the contact form below: your family’s love story.

How you & your partner or spouse met, how long you’ve been together, what inspired you to start your family (or grow your family), what dreams you have about welcoming this sweet baby into your family & what your hopes and expectations are for your birth story)

I look forward to meeting the raffle winner!

Home Birth & Why The Hospital and Obstetricians came into the picture

What the biggest shock about birth is that no one seems to know about this seemingly well kept secret of home birth. The truth is, it’s really no secret. Our modern day society simply does not do a decent job of educating our country’s young men and women to honor, respect and take an interest in parenthood until they find themselves pregnant. The priority in schools is sexual education, but no emphasis or time is spent on educating about the amazing motherhood journey.

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Home birth midwives here in south Florida carry a magic with them that needs to be shared with the world. They awake in the middle of the night, grab their luggage packed with midwifery tools, and go to a woman’s home to aid with the delivery of her baby. With a low risk pregnancy, any woman can birth at home under the care and guidance of a licensed midwife.

What is so magical about this to me is that this is how ALL babies use to be born. The shift to hospital births started in the 20th century. I scoured the internet to gather the history of birth for you, and landed whhy.org where an article written under the guidance of Rutgers University professor Margaret Marsh shares the history behind the transition from home to hospital in the 1760s.

“In the colonial period, all the way up to 1760 or so, there was no real challenge to midwives delivering babies,” explained Marsh. When a woman was ready to give birth, her female relatives, and friends would help her through the process, along with a midwife.

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Professor Marsh the went onto say that “it was a scary process, babies died, women died, having a baby was a frightening thing,”  (Source: whyy.org)

I wanted to touch on that statement, because it honestly stopped me in my tracks. The entire article featuring Professor Marsh was very fascinating, and while I think that is still a common misconception in the modern day world, and many home birth myths exist around this concept, I do think it is unfair to leave it at that statement. Midwives and obstetricians should find a healthy balance between high risk and low risk births, complications during labor / birth / post partum, and when an obstetrician should be required to step into the process.


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Professor Marsh continues onto say that: around 1760, upper class women started to want to have doctors at their births. They thought that because the doctors had more education they could deliver a safer birth. Doctors delivered babies in women’s homes, and doctor-assisted births became more popular over time. “In 1900, about half the babies were delivered by midwives. By 1935, only fifteen percent were delivered by midwives,” said Marsh.

“Over time, there developed a rivalry between doctors and midwives, ” she added. “Doctors would say ‘we know more about anatomy, we are better suited to do this.’ Midwives said ‘we are women, we have experience, we know how we do this.'”

For many decades, the tug of war over approaches broke down along the gender lines; all of the doctors were male, and all of the midwives were female.

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The shift to hospital births started in the 20th century. “What happened in the beginning of the 20th century was anesthesia for delivering children, and they wanted to have pain-free childbirth.”

But Marsh says the outcomes for women weren’t that great. “Lots of complications, lots of infections, it didn’t have the effect that women desired. They wanted safer, less painful childbirth, but in the first third to half of the century, it was not always safer childbirth.”

Marsh explained that in the 1930s, most of the midwives were practicing in rural areas, and were often called “granny midwives,” people who learned their trade on their own. “It did seem for a while as if midwives were going to become obsolete. The 1940s, 50s and 60s, you get doctors, especially obstetricians delivering all the babies.” Marsh says the feminist movement of the 1970s revived women’s interest in midwives. “Women once again wanted to control their own childbirth experience.” (Source: whyy.org)

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This past week I learned for the first time in my 33 years of life that my mom was born at home. My grandmother (my mom’s mother) went into labor in the early morning just as her husband was leaving for work, and she sent her cousin to get the local midwife (back then in eastern European slavic countries a midwife was called an Akuszerka). She was pregnant with twins, it was her second pregnancy. It was ten minutes in between the births of both twins, my mom was born second.

My whole life I grew up in south Florida learning about western medicine. For me, I didn’t even know what a midwife was or did, in all the 27 years of my life leading up to the birth of my first child, I had never been educated about birth, let alone home birth. And now, 6 years deep into motherhood, it is a shock and exciting revelation to me to find out that my own mom was born in her home.


Hannah’s Home Birth with her Fourth Baby

When I got to Hannah’s home, early afternoon, the air was still. The music was soothing.

I felt as though everything was right and still with the world. A peaceful, still afternoon.

Hannah was swaying through contractions. Her husband was at her side.







My Journey with Polyhydramnios, C-sections and Loose Post Partum Belly Skin

⚪️⚪️ SELF REVEAL ⚪️⚪️

I’m kind of an open book. Too many things were kept from me by society about motherhood, so I am a proponent of transparency. I think many women can relate to this statement, because how many women can honestly say that they knew much about pregnancy, labor, birth and post partum BEFORE they had their first child? Unless you’re a labor and delivery nurse, a labor doula or post partum doula, a midwife or an OBGYN, chances are, you, similarly to me, didn’t have much of an education about motherhood before you became a mom for the first time to your own child.

A few weeks ago I finally took a deep breath and I went to see a revered specialist (who I still highly admire btw) in the plastic surgery field because I wanted to be “fixed”

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Going from being somebody who easily fit into any piece of clothing, never worrying about size labels, never second-guessing my health, to suddenly finding myself with pretty serious self-body image issues after polyhydramnios with two pregnancies... This picture is my body TODAY (btw I’m not underweight! ❌ I’m just inhaling and my ribs say hello!)

Here I have been taking pictures of women in the most compelling moment of their motherhood experiences, truly believing and telling them they are radiantly gorgeous — never did any of their bodies ever make me feel they weren’t stunning. I never looked at weight as a negative. I always saw radiant beauty.

But here I was with a self-body image problem.

I hated my body. Well, my stomach. What polyhydramnios did to it, it became unrecognizable to me. It didn’t matter how much weight I lost after my second pregnancy, the stomach was still there. So I went to a plastic surgeon asking them what they would need to do to “fix me” so I could go back to being beautiful 

what I didn’t expect was for that visit to be the moment I would fall in love with my postpartum body.

Someone telling me that they would take away the skin I’ve lived in for 33 years, the stupid dragon tattoo I got when I was 21 that over these years became a symbol of my badass motherhood that I didn’t even realize — until they were telling me that with a tummy tuck, it would have to go. 99% of my abdominal dragon tattoo would have to go.

I walked out of the office a changed woman.

I never in a million years thought I would want to keep this skin, find my pp body beautiful & attractive. 

Fast forward a few weeks, I’m laying on my living room floor this morning, taking a photograph specifically to share with women out there who might have body image issues after their pregnancy.

POSTPARTUM IS THE DIVINE FEMININE. 

It took me 6 years, and I finally believ

Interview with Dr. Scott Roseff of IVFMD in Boca Raton, FL

The Birth Talk Show

Hosted weekly on FB Live by Paulina Splechta Birth Photographer & Filmmaker and Martha Lerner labor doula, birth photographer and post partum support of Zenmamalove.com. Every week we invite experts in the motherhood world, ranging from fertility/conception and pregnancy through labor, birth and into the post partum, 4th trimester and first twelve months mommy, to discuss their specialties with moms, women and families of south Florida so that women can be supported and have resources at their fingertips to getting through the new transition of motherhood. The Birth Talk Show was born out of our realization of the need of a lot of families in south Florida who don’t have the resources that we’ve gotten the opportunity to learn about over the last three or four years. We really wanted to bring the awareness of these resources to the families of south Florida and that’s why we are on our 8th episode. Today on episode 8 of the show we will be talking about fertility with Dr. Scott Roseff, Board Certified in Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility at IVFMD in Boca Raton, FL.


  • We asked Dr. Roseff why his approach to fertility is so vastly different from other fertility specialists

  • What drew his passion into fertility work at the start of his career

  • We found out that the age we thought egg quality starts to go down — we were completely wrong! (Spoiler, its way earlier than you thought!)

  • What his recommended waiting time is before seeing a fertility specialist if you’re trying to conceiving and think you might be having problems


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Paulina Splechta (Birth Photographer): Dr. Roseff, I’d really love for you to talk to our viewers about your philosophy of fertility and how you approach it. I feel very swept away with your approach because I feel its very holistic.

Dr. Scott Roseff: I do take a different approach to fertility, I’ve been doing this for almost 30 years and people come to me with a problem. The problem is either getting pregnant or holding a pregnancy or both. I saw a patient this morning who has been trying for four and a half years. She has both difficulty getting pregnant and any time she did become pregnant, she’s lost those pregnancies, she’s had five losses. I’m an expert in getting to the bottom of what the problem is or the problems are.

When people go to a fertility doctor they typically start treatments “okay you’re having difficulty getting pregnant, let’s do this and see if it works” but what I do is I always take a half a step back and say let’s get to the bottom of what’s going on, so I can know what your problems are so we can address them head on. My primary objective with every patient I see is to find out the problems and see if I can fix them or overcome them so that I can have perhaps the man take this pill and the female do this and then go home and get pregnant. I like to restore natural fertility and in doing that its a very complex picture. It’s not just sperm and egg making a pregnancy. It’s psychological issues, its sociological issues, lifestyle habits; its so complex.

The person is a compilation of everything going on in his or her life, it’s not just sperm and egg. So I need to look at stress, food, exercise. Too little exercise can have an impact. Too much exercise can have an impact on their success. I look at body fat. Most fertility experts are not measuring body fat. Too little body fat actually has a very negative effect on health and reproductive outcome. Too much body fat, which is usually more commonly the problem, can have a negative impact on outcome as well as health. The saying is “if we don’t have our health, we have nothing” Many people come to me with health problems that haven’t been addressed, even when they go to their family doctors, the family doctors are not addressing these issues with telling the patients that you have a problem that needs to be addressed before you get pregnant.

I do a lot of what’s called preconception counseling where I go through factors that can cause a baby to be sick, or a baby to be born with health problems, or increased risk of autism for example, and these are things that I look at before people get pregnant so that when they get pregnant, they’re going to have the highest chance of getting pregnant, staying pregnant, having a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby, and that really takes a very broad approach which is holistic, rather than just “okay we’re going to do this treatment hopefully you’ll be pregnant and out the door and good bye and good luck” I want healthy mom, healthy dad, healthy pregnancy, healthy baby and there’s a lot that goes into mental health, physical health, reproductive health.

It’s a very big picture. People come with problems and its a jigsaw puzzle and my job is to put the little pieces of the puzzle together and it takes a lot of work and it takes some time. I understand the desire for people to be pregnant yesterday, “I’ve been trying for X amount of time and I want to be pregnant now” but you always have to take a half a step back and address the issues. One patient came to me from Russia having failed in vitro fertilization 7 times and when she came to her consult she said “I heard that you’re the best and I want to do IVF with you and I want to do it now.” And I said “that makes no sense, you failed 7 times, there are problems here and I need to level that playing field before you do this again.” So I did, it took 4 months to level her playing field and then when we did IVF she conceived twins and delivered twins first time and the philosophy is to do this once, to do it right and to make it work.

Paulina Splechta (Birth Photographer): But I love what you said “the philosophy is to do this once, to do this right and just make it work.”

Dr. Scott Roseff: And often it does.

Paulina Splechta (Birth Photographer): Before I met you I had never had any experience with doctors who work in this field, and I only have stories from friends and family members of trials and trials of IVF that have failed for years and years and they were just getting to the point where they felt that they were never going to have a baby unless they get an egg donor or a surrogate..

Dr. Scott Roseff: So many people come to me from other fertility practices having been told they need an egg donor. I saw a patient this morning who was told over the last three years she was at her previous fertility practice that she needs a surrogate, she needs someone else to carry the pregnancy — she doesn’t. People who say that they were told they need an egg donor, I’ll test them, and find out that they really don’t need to do that. You really need to know what’s really truly going on, rather than saying “okay, this failed, that failed, so let’s get a sperm donor or an egg donor and maybe that’ll work, let’s get another uterus and put an embryo in there and see if that’ll work.” You really need to find out what the problems are and address them. Sure, some people need an egg donor, yes, there are occasions when someone needs a surrogate to carry the pregnancy, but so many people have been told the wrong thing and when I see them and tell them what they really need to do, first of all, they’re blown away by it and second of all, when they’re successful, I hear every minute of everyday “I wish I came here first rather than having spent X amount of time, X amount of years, X amount of money, X amount of emotional toil elsewhere.

I just like to see if I can help people conceive first objective is natural conception, if that’s not in the cards, if its something thats not likely going to work, then there are tools that I have to assist people in becoming pregnant, but I want to look for the simplest, least invasive, least expensive thing that we can do to achieve a high degree of success. IVF is the bottom of the list, it’s the last resort, its the last thing that I ever want anyone to have to go through. Yeah, a lot of people need IVF, do IVF here, and are successful, but it’s the last thing that I want anyone to have to go through.

Martha Lerner (Zenmamalove.com): Before we go onto the next question, I wanted to ask you, if you wouldn’t mind sharing with us, what got you into this field, what made you decide to get into fertility.

Dr. Scott Roseff: When I was in my training, I had to rotate through different disciplines in the medical field, so we had to do some time in pediatrics, in general surgery, and obstetrics and gynecology and psychiatry, and all the different disciplines, and when I did OBGYN and the first time that I was in a delivery room with someone, and it was just me — they threw me in and said go deliver the baby, and one minute it was the patient in the room with me and the next minute there were three of us in the room, the baby was there, and no one came through the door, I said “this is the most miraculous thing I can ever fathom, bringing another life into the world” and I said “I want to be an OBGYN, I want to deliver babies and take care of pregnant women for the rest of my life.” So then I started my training in just obstetrics and gynecology, and in doing so, one of the rotations that we have to do is we have to go through the infertility rotation, and then when I saw the heart break of people who were having difficulty getting to the point of that miracle, I said “this is what I really need to do, I need to help people to achieve that miracle,” rather than just bring the miracle and deliver the baby, let’s help people who can’t get there to get there. And so I went into the fertility field.

Martha Lerner (Zenmamalove.com): So if a woman comes to you and is having difficulty conceiving, what’s generally something you would recommend for her to do in the beginning?

Dr. Scott Roseff: If she has a partner, that she and her partner need to look at their lives, they need to look at a broader picture of why they may not be getting pregnant or may be losing pregnancies. Look at your lifestyle, look at your nutrition, look at your general overall health. Pregnancy is growing another life inside of your body for three quarters of a year. When I do the first pregnancy ultrasound, and I measure the baby and the baby is 5mm on that first ultrasound, which is the size of your pinky nail and there is a little flicker of a heartbeat and you have this 5mm fetus inside of you and you have to nourish it and you have to grow it and you have to sustain it, if you’re not in good mental health and good physical health, how do you expect your body to nourish and grow successfully another life for three quarters of a year. So people really need to look at the bigger picture, "are we stressed out” because there is a connection between the mind and the body.

You have to look at lifestyle factors, are you overweight, are you obese, are you underweight, because those can have affect as well. Men, can be exposed to high levels of heat, are you going to a sauna, are you going to a jacuzzi or a hot tub several times a week, it has a really bad effect on sperm. So you have to look at certain things that can have effect on fertility. And then, if you’re having difficulty and think there could be a problem, don’t wait too long. Men make new sperm in their bodies every ten weeks until they’re dead, but women don’t make new eggs.

When a woman is 25 years old, her eggs have been in her body for 25 years, but if she’s 30 or 35 or 40, her eggs have been sitting on a shelf for 40 years and since she doesn’t make new ones, her egg quantity goes down, but more importantly, her egg quality goes down. If the egg quality is low, then the egg may not fertilize or if the egg does fertilize and it’s a bad egg, those pregnancies are more likely to miscarry. If its a bad egg or an older egg and the pregnancy doesn’t miscarry, its a greater chance of a genetically abnormal baby, like a down syndrome pregnancy.

One of the important things for women to remember is that they should not wait too long. I ask my patients when they think their egg quality really starts to go down and 90% of the time they say age 35 and that’s not correct. The egg quality starts to go down around age 24, and it’s a slow drop from 24 to 30 and then its a pretty quick drop from 30 to 35, and then it’s a very sharp drop there after. So don’t wait too long. I see people who are 40 years old who go to their family doctor or their health care provider and say “we want to have a baby” and the doctor says “well, you need to try for a year, and if you’re not pregnant then we can do some tests,” and if you’re 40 you don’t wait a year. If you’re 35 you don’t wait a year. So don’t wait too long.

Paulina Splechta (Birth Photographer): So I guess it really depends on the state of a person’s health and their age, when they should start taking it to the next step, but if we could generalize, if a woman has been having issues conceiving for maybe 3, 4, 5 months, what should her next step be at that point, is that too much time to wait?

Dr. Scott Roseff: Well, no, unless there is something in her history or her partner’s history that suggests that we’re going to have a problem right from the onset. For example, there are women who don’t get regular periods. You’re 25 years old, you want to be pregnant, you get a period 8 weeks apart, 12 weeks apart, 6 months apart — don’t wait, there’s a problem. Go to your doctor and start to get tested and find out what the problem is. There’s an infection called chlamydia, its an infectious disease that can cause damage to a fallopian tube. If you’ve had chlamydia when you were 17 years old, and now you’re 22 years old and you want to have a baby, get tested and make sure you don’t have fallopian tube damage, because it’s in your history and therefore you don’t wait and wait and wait because there’s a predisposing factor that maybe something right off the bat that can be addressed or should be addressed or looked at.

In general, if you’re under 35 years old and there’s really nothing in your history that you think suggests you’ll have a fertility problem, you could try for up to a year. If psychologically that’s going to hurt you then don’t wait the year, see a fertility expert sooner. If you’ve reached or passed your 35th birthday, the general rule is 6 months. If there’s really nothing in your history, you can try for 6 months, and if you’re not pregnant after 6 months, see a fertility doctor.

Paulina Splechta (Birth Photographer): What types of fertility treatments do you offer here?

Dr. Scott Roseff: The first thing I want to do with any patient is to try to see if I can address issues or problems to the point of allowing them to go home and have sexual relations and conceive on their own and that’s my primary objective with every patient I see. Sometimes if a patient comes here and had her tubes tied, had two babies and now wants baby number three and she had a tubal sterilization, she’s not going to conceive on her own. Depending on what the tests show, the fertility treatments are dictated by the test results. For example, if the sperm is a little bit poor and all other things are okay, then there is a relatively simple procedure called Intrauterine insemination (IUI for short) that maybe appropriate. But if she’s 39 years old the odds for success with that will be quite low. So we really need to look at the whole picture and say if you’re 29 years old and you have a little bit of a sperm issue and you don’t ovulate regularly then I can give a fertility pill and we can do Intrauterine insemination with the sperm to have a pretty good chance of success. If you’re past your 35th birthday and especially past your 37th birthday, then IUI is really not a great option, fertility pills are really not very effective, if you’re older; So if IUI is not an option or a good option, then the next step above that is injectable fertility drugs that are given with the purpose of stimulating multiple eggs to grow and develop but it would be dangerous to allow 6 eggs to ovulate and inseminate someone, because if we throw a handful of sperm at 6 eggs, she could possibly be pregnant with 6 babies and that’s not a good outcome. If we’re using injectable fertility drugs then the treatment would be to extract the multiple eggs, fertilize them and grow embryos and that’s in vitro fertilization. If we’re doing in vitro fertilization we need to look at the age of the female, because if she’s past her 35th birthday a fairly large percentage of the embryos would be typically chromosomally genetically not normal, so rather than grow the embryos and put one into the uterus we would genetically test the embryos for genetic mistakes like down syndrome before we put an embryo into a uterus and then when we have a genetically normal good quality embryo that would be the one we that would be chosen to put into the uterus. So it has to be individualized and personalized for ever patient, every couple.

One of the other things I see from the records I get from people who have been to other facilities, is that those facilities tend often to do cookbook medicine as I call it. “It’s a recipe, its a cookbook, and you get it and you get it and you get it and you get it”

But she’s different than she is and she is and she is and you can’t turn to page 6 in the cookbook and do the same thing for everybody it has to be individualized and that takes thought it takes thinking outside the box, it takes effort and it takes very individualized, personalized care and I think if I was going through it, that’s what I would want to have done and that’s what needs to be done and should be done.

There are adjunctive treatments that I recommend for all of my fertility challenged patients. I do recommend fertility acupuncture. There are acupuncturist all over south Florida, many of them have special expertise in the fertility field. I tell every fertility patient that they should consider fertility acupuncture. there are many potential benefits of acupuncture.

I look at this as a team effort. I cannot do this without the assistance of other people like acupuncture doctors, I have fertility psychologists that I refer my patients to for stress reduction and mind body balancing along with the acupuncture. Some of them have a speciality of reproductive medicine psychology. We collaborate together and it really helps the stress reduction and these other techniques for achieving greater success.

Martha Lerner (Zenmamalove.com): That’s wonderful, that was my next question, what other alternative or complementary modalities would you recommend?

Dr. Scott Roseff: We have a tremendous demand for nutrition counseling and lifestyle changes in our patients. Many of our patients are overweight. Many of our patients are obese. And some of my patients are severly underweight. They teach us nutrition about one day in medical school so we can’t be the nutrition experts but there are nutrition experts out there and in my practice we have someone who has advanced degrees in nutrition and exercise physiology, she’s a professor of nutrition at one of the universities in Miami and I have my patients see her and work with her to optimize their health and optimize their bodies so that they will have a significantly improved chance of success. The patient who came to me from Russia, with 7 failed IVF cycles, had some physical body issues that needed to be addressed, lifestyle changes, nutrition and exercise, and eating right and eating better, and losing body fat. She worked with our expert, her name is Marta, over those 4 months. And then Marta said, “time to go back to Dr. Roseff and start moving forward,” we did with incredible success.

Like I said, I can’t do this alone, I have great expertise in what I do and knowledge but its a broader picture, its a bigger picture.

Paulina Splechta (Birth Photographer): I’m so excited by the fact that you’re here, you’re in the heart of south Florida, in Boca Raton at IVFMD, so all the families from Port Saint Lucie and Jupiter can have access to you and all the families as south as Miami. Thank you so much for making the time for sitting with us and share with our viewers. We hope we can reach at least one family that could benefit from this gentle approach to fertility. If anyone has any questions for Dr. Scott Roseff, please message us privately or leave a comment below and we will be happy to connect you.